I did cheat against myself when I was playing with my child. That because every time she did not win resulted in a kind of autistic meltdown that was very hard to bear. Her mother likes to say, first you have principles, then you have kids and then you stop having principles. I understand that now. This is probably not with every child, and not even the majority, but there is the type - usually autistic - who will have such a meltdown every time they do not get what they want is that the only way to protect our sanity is to let them have what they want. This is not ideal for long-term purposes, but short-term it is basically the only way to not lose our sanity as parents short of choking them.
See I really don't believe in your wife's principles quote. Principles only matter when it's hard, otherwise they're not principles.
That said, I don't know much at all about autism, so can't really say what's the right long term approach. If learning self control and to process sadness and rage is truly impossible, then I don't know what to do.
I did cheat against myself when I was playing with my child. That because every time she did not win resulted in a kind of autistic meltdown that was very hard to bear. Her mother likes to say, first you have principles, then you have kids and then you stop having principles. I understand that now. This is probably not with every child, and not even the majority, but there is the type - usually autistic - who will have such a meltdown every time they do not get what they want is that the only way to protect our sanity is to let them have what they want. This is not ideal for long-term purposes, but short-term it is basically the only way to not lose our sanity as parents short of choking them.
See I really don't believe in your wife's principles quote. Principles only matter when it's hard, otherwise they're not principles.
That said, I don't know much at all about autism, so can't really say what's the right long term approach. If learning self control and to process sadness and rage is truly impossible, then I don't know what to do.